While this may seem like a mundane and uninteresting topic, buying the correct presents for your wife for the holidays can strongly enhance your relationship. By the same token, not taking the necessary care can seriously hurt your relationship.
Let us look at it from her perspective. Imagine she opened the perfect present on Christmas morning. Something that is just for her, that was specifically chosen because it was something that she wanted. Imagine how that would make her feel.
With that in mind, I’m going to offer you the most important 3 steps that you need to take to find that perfect present. Or, even better, those perfect presents.
Step 1. Find out her preferences. By this we are referring to generalities, not specific. Find out your wife’s favorite colour, her favourite of her body parts, her favourite time of day; whatever you can think of that can help you to start looking.
Step 2 Ask her friends. Tell them that you are looking for the perfect presents this holiday season. This will have two positive effects; It will actually help you to find the gifts that work, plus it will make you a hero in the eyes of her friends. Get her friends talking you up to her will certainly boost her opinion of you.
Step 3. Make sure that the gift is only for her. We alluded to this earlier but it bares repeating. Make sure that her presents are only for her: No cookware, no vacuum cleaner, no lingerie (unless, of course, the sales lady insists that this lingerie is very comfortable) It is okay to buy a gift or two that can also be used by other members of the family, but this is only after the perfect gifts are revealed.
Step 4. Listen to her. You simply never know when she is going to mention that perfect gift to you in passing. She might tell you about a painting that reminder her of a happy time, or a piece of music that the two of you shared while you were dating.
If you are anything like me, your wife will tell you that she does not need or want anything. Don’t be taken in! If she awakens Christmas morning and finds that there are no presents for her you are in deep trouble.
The same goes if she finds the wrong presents there. Begin now to fix and solidify your marriage; make this Christmas the best Christmas.